Parenting Packages Are Coming!

Over the last year, Amy has developed custom packages that walk you through the most critical issues parents deal with today.  Grouping them into 4 stages has now made Amy’s one-on-one consulting time even more affordable than before!

Starting February 1, Equip, Empower and Engage Parenting Series will be officially launched.  Amy has designed a 4-step process that guides you through your parenting journey beginning with Step 1: Initial Consultation.

Book your first session before 2/1/15 and receive 1 session of Amy 911 FREE!!

  1. Initial Consultation (one-time session)
    Amy offers an Initial Consultation session to get started. This time together will be spent for her to learn about your family and hear your concerns. Amy will give her feedback and let you know what you can expect from consulting with her. Learn More
  2. Equip Package (weekly)
    This is Amy’s essential parenting offering. She found that 5 sessions are necessary for a successful beginning experience together. This gives her the opportunity to:
    •  know your family,
    •  identify key concerns
    •  delve into the fundamentals of parenting with you and
    •  focus on your personalized roadmap
    During these sessions, Amy provides advice, tips, tools and solutions.  Learn More
  3. Empower Package (bi-monthly)
    Parenting With Amy’sSM next offering is the Empower Package. You will build on the fundamentals of parenting and find new ways of responding to the specific challenges you face. Although the new skills are easy to learn, they take practice to implement consistently so Amy will support you as you continue to integrate them. Learn More
  4. Engage Package (monthly)
    The Engage Package allows your continued connection with Amy. She knows that as you continue to make changes, new questions and concerns will arise. She is there to continue to offer suggestions and encourage you along the journey. Having this plan in place ensures that you have the support and accountability you need to be successful.  Learn More

BONUS: Amy 911 (as needed sessions)

Amy 911 is designed to have her on call after you’ve done the hard work. Individual sessions are available if you have completed Parenting With Amy’sSM Equip, Empower or Engage Packages. Sometimes parents forget what to do or revert to their old ways. Amy believes this kind of continued support is what leads to long lasting change.

Special Note from Amy:

With hours of study and research completed for these 4 packages, my desire to see every parent equipped, empowered and engaged.  I want your job to be as easy and pleasurable as possible!

There’s Always Hope,

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Is Character Lost? How to Get it Back!

You have the chance of a lifetime … the privilege to shape and mold your child’s character! You don’t have many years to do it either. Developing character is an ongoing endeavor and not something you can teach them about once. We have to be intentional in times like these, because our society makes it more and more difficult to instill these important qualities in our kids. With the internet, television and social media spewing all manner of inappropriateness, we are working against the societal grain.

We live in exciting times that point us to emerging research that confirms what I’ve always believed. When it comes to predicting our kids’ success in life, more important than intelligence is their character.Character_Pic

  • Can they self-regulate, handle disappointment and persevere?
  • Do they tend to have a more positive outlook on life, are they kind, caring, respectful and so on?

I happen to think that many parents today are way too focused on grades, performance, competition and scholarship possibilities more than they are in helping their kids become good humans with a strong moral compass. By the way, the spin-off of all that pressure is causing unnecessary anxiety in our children.

The optimal time to help our kids and teach them these all-important skills is during their preschool years, so start early. And, get this, during those early years it’s through play that they learn the best!

Having said that, let’s talk about what we can do to help them.

  1. The first place to look is us. Are we modeling and living out fairness, compassion, respectfulness, honesty, love and patience or any other character quality that is important to you. Children first begin to learn about virtues from us, so we determine which traits our kids will see modeled.
  2. It’s not enough for them to just see us live out the virtues we want them to espouse. We need to be positive and encouraging when we catch them exhibiting moral behavior. Bring it to their attention. Tell them you noticed how fair they played that board game. As we know, if we want repeat behavior, we give them the positive attention it deserves.
  3. Teach them to serve others. Involve your family in community service activities. Churches offer many opportunities to serve and you could also show them what it’s like to be available for family and friends when they need a little help.
  4. It’s advisable to let your sweet things struggle and even fail at times. Just think, they will get opportunities to practice managing frustrations and failures because we know that life is full of disappointments. This is one of the ways they become strong and resilient. Sell them on the idea that with effort they can improve. When they are struggling with grasping a new concept, say multiplication, encourage them as they practice until the light bulb comes on. Self-esteem and confidence is the result.
  5. Identify their strengths and bring them to their attention. Let her know you noticed she extended forgiveness to someone that was really mean to her or that he was so patient with his annoying younger brother as he was learning a new game.

A thought to hold on to and be hopeful about … the fruits of your labor and diligence in modeling and teaching these skills will probably not be evidenced right away. You will likely see this much later and it might not be until your child is in adulthood. But don’t give up. Have faith that many kids eventually espouse the virtues your family values.

Wherever you are in the world, I’m just a phone call away!  Over the last year, I have developed custom packages that walk you through the most critical issues parents deal with today.  Grouping them into 4 stages has now made my one-on-one consulting time even more affordable than before!  Click Here to read more about my Parenting Packages.

There’s Always Hope,

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All I Want Is R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

Respect means different things to different people. Since respect is not a concrete concept, it can be a bit of a challenge to teach.

Respect is how we show others we value them.

It’s our attitude or mindset toward others, what we believe about them and how we treat them. It can be pwa_feature_respectabout valuing others’ opinion, lifestyle, etc. whether they are the same as ours or not, and it can also be about treating others with kindness and holding them in high regard.

Then there’s self-respect. 

How I see myself and the way I go about living. How about you? Were you a respectful kid? Did you feel respected as a child? How about as an adult? Are you pleased with the way you currently do life?

How to help your child learn about respect.      

  1. We can’t expect our children to respect us if we don’t respect them. We can’t even demand respect. Some parents  tell me “she WILL respect me.” Almost daily I hear “she is so disrespectful.” The first thing I ask is “how are you treating her”? That, by the way, is not the most popular question I ask. It can strike a nerve. We’re the adults and it’s up to us to model what respect is. To expect our kids to respect us when we’re treating them with disrespect is absolutely wrong.
  2. Next to treating our kids and spouse with respect is how we treat others. Remember, your kids are watching you because you are their role model.
    • Do you rant and rave when somebody cuts you off in traffic or are you gracious and let them in?
    • Do you treat waiters the same way you treat your banker?
    • Are you kind to your housekeeper?
  3. Let your child know you value her by listening to her thoughts and feelings. Be a family that requires respect. Tell your kids “in this family, when someone speaks to us, we respond. To ignore is rude and disrespectful.”
  4. When you see someone treating others shabbily, bring that up in conversation with your children. Say “I noticed he was mean to her. What do you think about what he said”? Get them to think and dialogue about it with you.
  5. Require good manners in your family. Please, thank you, yes ma’am, no sir, etc.  We can start with these basics when they are toddlers.
  6. Teaching our kids how to listen is another skill that conveys respect and is necessary. When we’re talking to him, we expect him to put down his game and listen. We must show him the same respect.

If your child is speaking to you in a disrespectful way, make sure that you don’t respond in kind. You can request that you would like for her to come up with a more respectful way to talk to you and that you will be ready to listen when she does.

The Golden Rule is the best example we can use to help our kids understand what respect means. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you or simply put, treat others the way you want to be treated. The ability to be able to put ourselves in another person’s shoes is called empathy. Begin to teach your child about this important concept.

Respect is a must if you desire strong and healthy relationships. The parent-child relationship suffers greatly if there is little or no respect. If it is your desire to have the kind of parent-child relationship that is built on mutual respect, I’m excited for you. The reason?

You will be blessed.  

There’s Always Hope,

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Need more help?  Parents often jokingly ask Amy, “Will you go home with me?”  While she can’t do that, Amy is available to consult with parents through her consultation services.  Click Here to learn more!